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When The Going Gets Tough…

Many times the path we’re on and the problems we’re having seem unending.

We’ve all heard the saying, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Right?

It’s a good saying, a reasonable and strong saying, however some of us redefine the term, “get going.”  We turn it into the exact opposite of what the saying means.  And we do so by going.  By going away from the problem, the burden or the challenge.  In fact some of us could qualify for a lettermen’s jacket in problem avoidance.

worryIf that’s you, don’t be too hard on yourself, because from time to time we’ve all been guilty of going to the same pity party and hanging out for a while and none of us have faced every obstacle with complete courage, strength and tenacity.  This is especially true for those of us that seem to have to continually deal with the same problem again and again.  We can get so tired of the same fights, the same old foes, and then the same outcome.  And it’s normal for us to wonder if it (whatever it may be for you) will really ever end.

We’ve all been there, we’ve all done that, and we’ve all been at the point of being completely lost as to what to do differently so we can have a different outcome.

And it’s most frustrating and seemingly overwhelming when we know for a fact that we really have done our best.  That’s when we start to run out of steam.  Especially when, while trying to overcome in an area, we continually reassess ourselves, we honestly look at our part in the problem and we try to make good, solid strides in our personal development.  It’s those times when we feel we’ve done all we can that things can get truly overwhelming.

Unless there’s a clear pattern of failing to complete tasks, I seldom chastise a person for simply feeling what we all feel from time to time.  However it is still necessary for us to move forward and to try to gain some degree of clarity.

Though it may not seem it, if we keep going forward there always comes a time when eventually the fog of a depressive attitude lifts, and we realize that we either have to get back on board and fight our way out or fail totally.

And the time always comes to us, that moment of choice as to how we decide to carry the weight that we’re burdened with.  We all have known the times, albeit short that we can sense the feeling inside that makes us want to win at all costs.   It’s like we get this righteous indignation welling up in our inner being and we start to get tired of always being tired. That’s when we have to make a forever decision that this time history will not repeat itself.

“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.”  —Lou Holtz

We’re all different people and a burden to one may mean little to another.  But that doesn’t matter.  If it’s a burden to you, then it’s a burden.  But how we deal with it, that is something that we do have some control over.  Whether we feel confident or not nevertheless we do have control over ourselves, over how we feel about the problem.

If we can control or at least focus our feelings and motivate ourselves enough to turn those feelings, those frustrations into a solid, positive plan, we can start moving in a truly forward motion, instead of just going through the motions one more time.

But we have to get tough, focused and fed up and go after the answer with all the tenacity and focus of a pit bull.  Otherwise we will continue to be forever relegated to the group of runners that were also in the race but whose names were never remembered.

When the going get tough, the tough get going, but in their own individual way.   And sometimes when we don’t feel inspired or motivated by results seen to change our tactics we just have to create our own inspiration and motivation.  We have no other choice.  And we do so by looking deep inside ourselves at who we want to become and seeing ourselves finishing the task. 

 We’ve got to keep that vision of our being a victor in the  forefront of our mind’s eye and imagination.  We must see ourselves accomplishing the task.

We have to keep our eyes on the person we’ll become, the one we’ll look at in the mirror with admiration, or we’ll fall prey to what has been and not what can be.

worry inspirationThere are two absolutes in life.  We’ll absolutely take control of the problem and overcome or we absolutely won’t.  When there’s a problem to deal with, rarely do we sorta win.   “Sorta winning”  comes only with the high cost of compromise.

There’s an old saying, “It’s lonely at the top.”   However that is simply not true.   When you achieve a victory over something that’s been stalking you for a long time, you’ll come to find that you’re suddenly surrounded by some very good friends.

Their names are; Satisfaction, Confidence, Humility and Peace. 

When you’ve made up your mind to get past it this time and you get to the point where you know in your heart you won’t change your mind, that’s when you start the actual process of owning the situation.   And when you purposefully own a problem, and your mind is fully understanding that nothing except your own efforts will make the weight go away, that’s when you either put up with it and be quiet or you immediately get rid of it.  Those are typically your only options.

When the going gets tough, and it’s your peace and your own personal development on the line, you have to push yourself so that this internal motivation can focus you and lead you forcefully to the other side of the problem.

And trust me on this, it’s a wonderful view from the other side.

Author:  Tony Hensley

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