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Gratefulness Is Key To Personal Development

Gratefulness is key to personal development and balance is what people who desire to be whole should strive for.

In order to create a healthy and accurate perspective of life and to properly maintain balance throughout, gratefulness is a key element to personal development.

To go through the usual laundry list of things, people and situations that we should be grateful for isn’t necessary because we’re aware of them whether we choose to bring them to the forefront or not. However, in order to grow and correctly develop in the midst of situations and circumstances that may seem anything but helpful, it is vital to maintain a mindfulness of gratefulness.  Otherwise past situations can take on a strength that they in themselves do not have.

We come into this world head first and go out feet first; in between, it is all a matter of balance.   ~Paul Boese

Think about this; to become and stay a balanced person, one who isn’t easily dismayed by the downturns in life, we must remember yesterday’s victories and its’ happinesses while considering today’s opportunities so that our tomorrows can also be something we can appreciate and look back on with an attitude of gratefulness.

That includes remembering even the bad situations in life and quite frankly giving them some degree of credit, for the person you’ve become. Not to give them undue honor, but to rationally understand that if challenges hadn’t been a part of your life, you couldn’t have used them to learn how to become strong.

Problems are not what makes us strong, otherwise all of us would be strong but we’re not. It’s the character and resolve that we exercise in the midst of problems that makes us strong. Good character, resolve and resilience work together to make us strong.

Appreciation and gratefulness can easily become attributes that we place somewhere in the background since there’s so much that we need to be concentrating on in now of our lives. There is a lot that we must attend to in our daily lives, there is much to focus our attentions on. However, whether we want to think about it or not, to some degree we are a product of our past experiences, both good and bad.

And no matter how we have reacted to the yesterdays of our lives, for today the question is, “How do we develop a proper appreciation of what was, so that we can have an accurate perspective of our learned strengths and skills in order to make our tomorrows something to look back on with satisfaction?”

Many of us don’t want to give any credit whatsoever to situations that were not good, but that simply isn’t a rational way of thinking. While we don’t want to give too much time and honor to bad experiences, we must consider their benefit somewhat because out of them we learned to develop ourselves.

But what we should be seeking is balance and when we’ve had more than our “fair share” of problems in life, we also must give equal if not more time to those wonderful moments that we’ve had. We must consciously take time to remember good times, good people and good feelings that have come our way. We will always have the bad ones at our disposal to remember so it’s our choice as to which of the two will take up the majority of our thinking.

the pastWe may have came through a history of bad experiences and many of them may not have been our fault and of our doing at all. That can’t be undone and many times sense just can’t be made of them. But the strengths we’ve developed and the life skills we’ve learned from them, those are the things to hold on to and to keep in our thoughts. Challenging oneself to do this will have a lot more to do with defining us than the bad experiences if we so choose. Also, far to often we spend much of our energy focusing on the “big picture,” that which we want to happen at some point in time in the future that we neglect to remember and appreciate past experiences that have forged us into the type of person who will continue to move forward no matter what.

We mustn’t forget that the strength of character we’ve chosen to maintain, we’ve done so because of the resolve and resilience that we’ve learned from the past.

It’s hard to see the sense in being grateful for a problem, but it’s easy to be grateful for the personal empowerment we decided to take from the experience. But again, that’s only one side of the coin of gratefulness. We must also take conscious effort to remember and be warmed by the times and the people that, at some point in the past, made us smile and feel good. They were there and we shouldn’t just allow them to be relegated to a distant time long since gone.

Remembering blessings, even those seemingly disguised as difficulties, and maintaining a sense of gratefulness, allows us to maintain balance in a world that can seem very out of balance at times. To maintain balance in our lives, we need to consciously “hard-wire” an attitude of gratefulness in our lives.

Take a look at this short, heart warming video by a young lady who decided that no matter what, she wouldn’t be conquered.

Maybe something that has molded us was our fault or maybe not, but nevertheless we experienced it. Being grateful for the toughest of times as well as the warm and cuddly times keeps us from the clutches of having a victim mentality. We were each born to overcome and to teach others how to overcome, either directly or by example and maintaining an attitude of gratefulness for being able to experience the experience of life itself, will put us way ahead of the game. It’s what makes winners, winners.

 

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